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Gender and Family Life

Gender roles are defined by the socio-cultural norms of any society. In most of the societies, the family systems are based on the gender roles and it is the pre-designed gender roles that help members of the family to run the family with bound responsibilities. Any disturbance in the gender role aspect may affect the smooth functioning of the easy-going of any family.
But today, modern life has very much changed the family structure and the gender roles have been diverting from the traditional responsibilities and path of performance. In fact, the gap between different genders has already melted down, creating an all equal society and more equalized families. Today, there are no monarchs in families and no bout-to-obey members in families.
All live together, taking decisions together, expressing opinions openly, criticizing and encouraging mutually and yet being independent and responsible. The society-defined gender roles may crash with the modern roles of family members and many families experience the dilemma of the crashing gender roles.
The origin of gender roles can be dated back to the very establishment of social life. Ever since man started living in societies, they differentiated between the male gender and female gender and implicated specific lifestyle, duties and functional areas for each of these genders. It was quite needed in the then lifestyle of human beings.
Hunting was the only way of finding a living; thus muscular male members took the role of hunters of food suppliers and physically less fit female members took over the role of homemakers and cooks. The masculinity helped male gender to dominate the society and made them authoritative in families.
But the time has grown a lot empowering female gender to an almost equal status of men and today, they dare to live independent of the help of men and at times, to the extent of questioning men in different aspects. The newly gained power makes women get out of the norms and define new gender roles in the family, which may often result in clashes in the family.
The modern social structure sees both men and women as equal partners of the society with equal rights, status, and responsibility. This is a sudden change of concepts of a male-dominated society. In the families, people who have observed authoritarian father and submissive mothers may expect the same when they set up their own families.
The equal status may disturb the husbands as the laid-underneath superiority elements may require a certain amount of time to dissolve themselves and accept the new socio-cultural setup. The aspect of equality will give rise to certain issues too. Who is to direct and who to be directed? Who is the authority in family-related issues? etc., may put the family in trouble. If not accepted well and handled appreciably, the family may become like a vehicle steered to different directions at the same time by many drivers.
A family is not just an institution of many people living together under one roof, but the union of similar minded or mutually loving people bound with certain duties and responsibilities. The gender role structure was deliberately designed by the initial social setups to help the people accept and realize the specific duties each gender-bound to.
But today, both the parents work and earn for the family and both father and mother enjoy the equal social status and financial independence. At this point, the role of homemaker becomes no one's responsibility and both the partners may insist the other one be the homemaker. Adjustments, understanding, and empathy are the advised aspects that may help a smooth running family. Clinging to the century-old concepts and lifestyles may help only to worsen the situation.
The traditional family system had enough time dedicated for the kids as the mother was responsible for the entire process of childcare and development when the father had to bring in the essential food supplies. But modern lifestyle makes both the parents busy working for the family and earning the amount to meet the demands of life. Kids many times are left with caretakers or paid nannies.
Such lifestyles may affect the families badly as children may grow unaffectionate to the parents. It is quite difficult for any parent to balance between the modern lifestyle and parenting or homemaker tasks. Kids need to be trained to cope up with the family roles. This will help them to be more understanding and affectionate to parents.

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